This past Friday, the Supreme Court made gay marriage the law of the land. States must now issue marriage licenses for gay couples and honor homosexual marriages from other states.

As Bible-believing Christians, we agree that gay marriage is contrary to God’s Word. God’s pattern, shown in Adam and Eve, is for one man and one woman to be married for life.

The Apostle Paul tells us that marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church. In Ephesians 5:22-27 he wrote, “22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”

While it is certainly true that the Bible teaches heterosexual marriage only, it also true that heterosexuality is not the single defining characteristic in a Biblical marriage. We Christians must be careful, and introspective, when we say we support Biblical marriage.

I would argue that many support Biblical marriage in word only, not in practice. We rightly say that we oppose two men or two women marrying, but we also must ask if our own marriages are Biblical.

Husband, do you love your wife as Christ loved the church? Are you the spiritual leader of your home?

Wife, are you following the spiritual leadership of your husband? Paul’s command to your spouse is for him to love you. Paul’s command to you is to respect your husband. Ephesians 5:33 says, “33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.”

Our opposition to gay marriage is weak if our marriages are unbiblical.

A henpecked husband is unbiblical, yet we laugh at his situation.

A beaten down wife is tragic, yet we often look the other way.

Our marriages only reflects Christ and the church when we fulfill our God-given roles as husband and wife.

Many have wondered how we are to respond to the event of the past few days. The most productive thing we can do is to live out Biblical marriage. We can’t control anyone else’s relationship. But we, as a husbands and wives, can ensure that our marriages are Biblical.

Do you support Biblical marriage?

Is your marriage Biblical?